If not church then where?

I have been thinking to my self what is the church turning to and what is going to happen to the innocent souls that keep walking into church with great expectations and desire to learn and grow more, what about our youth and teenagers who have come out of the worldly nature and adopted and embraced the word of God with so much zeal and passion? or what about that person that has been drinking for years but has finally seen the light and is just hungry for more knowledge in truth? what happens to these kind when we have to tell them or when they witness that our church leaders are fighting , are causing pain to some members, talking negative things about their members, corrupt, gossiping, exploiting church funds, digging deep into members personal information and life in the name of accountability whereas they are equipping themselves for that day when you will not agree over an item then they can unleash all weapons.
I grew up knowing one thing ,that the church is where one could go for healing , forgiveness , repentance, it was meant to be a place of refuge and of a family setting, a place of rebuke but with love, a place of moral correction and spiritual conviction... is this changing over the years? If i cannot confess my sins to the pastor or even just council with the pastor without my confessions being on the front page of the next day newspaper, then where will i go? If i cannot go to church and learn love by what i see and witness in the church leaders then where? If love, the bible says covers a multitude of sin, why does a multitude of sin in the church cover the love that's meant to be? If not in the church then where? I am troubled and bitterly tear in my heart when those who are meant to be our spiritual leaders and mentors are the ones that hold in their hands the hummer that is pounding and breaking as apart instead of building and mending us. If not in the church then where can i get help?